I really hate it when you ask a question looking for a “yes, you can do that” or “no, that’s against the rules” and get a think about what you want long-term and take steps to make it happen.
This is in reference a fandom message board. What I want long-term has literally nothing to do with it.
The trouble is that, for women, being “nice” often translates into putting up with things we should never put up with. How many times has some creep sat uncomfortably close to me on the bus and stared me down, yet I’m too afraid to just get up and move, lest I offend him?
We smile when we’re harassed on the street or hit on by jerks. We laugh at sexist jokes. We learn that when we have strong opinions, we’ll be called bitches and that if we get angry, we’ll be called hysterical. When we say what we want, we’re called pushy or aggressive.
Part of learning “ladylike” behavior is about learning to smile politely when someone is being crude. Femininity has long been attached to passivity and to being docile. Men fight, women giggle and fume silently.
Women And Girls Don’t Need To Be Told To Be Nicer (via idioticteen)